You’re not the one I wanted

From Max Lucado’s You’ll Get Through This:

“Once, just minutes before I officiated at a wedding, the groom leaned over to me and said, ‘You weren’t my first choice.’ Lucado responded, ‘I wasn’t?’ Here’s the rest of the conversation:

‘No, the preacher I wanted couldn’t make it. But thanks for filling in.’

‘Sure. Anytime.’”

Lucado said he considered signing the wedding license: “Substitute.”

Have you ever felt that way? Ever been someone’s second, third, or worse choice? Really builds your self-image, right? Who wants to be ‘settled for’ or not wanted at all? It reminds of the political candidate who asked a potential voter if he had made up his mind. The man said he was down to two choices – the politician’s main rival and another guy. The politician was a little miffed, “Well, who’s the other guy?” The voter replied, “Anybody else.”

If you have ever stood waiting and waiting to be chosen in a pick-up game or wondered why the gang went to lunch without asking you, you know the feeling. If you have ever had your heart broken by someone you cherished, you know the pain. “You’re not the one I wanted.”

There are times when we may feel that way about God. We may feel picked on or ignored. We may feel we don’t deserve His love or attention. We may feel unworthy.

You know what? I am unworthy. I don’t deserve His attention or favor. I have done nothing to earn anything from God. I might even think God could say to me, “You’re not the one I wanted.”

I would be wrong.

Lucado wrote: “You’ll never hear such words from God. He chose you. The choice wasn’t obligatory, required, compulsory, forced, or compelled. He selected you because He wanted to. You are His open, willful, voluntary choice. He walked onto the auction block where you stood, and He proclaimed, ‘This child is mine.’”

And He bought you with the precious blood of His Son. I cannot make Him love me more or less than He already does. I am, you are, the one He wanted.

He wants you on His team. He wants you to sit at the table with Him. He wants you to be His forever.

Perhaps this week, we need to be reminded how precious we are to Him. When you’re going through a tough time or having a bad day, remember Who loves you. You are the one He wanted.

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About Mark Wilbanks

Dr. Wilbanks became Wieuca’s fifth senior pastor in February of 2012. Mark’s father, Oliver Wilbanks, served as Associate Pastor here from 1966 to 1982. Wieuca had a tremendous influence in shaping Mark’s call to ministry during his teenage and young adult years. A graduate of both Southern and New Orleans Baptist Theological seminaries, Mark has served churches in Kentucky, Florida, and Georgia. He pastored Southside Baptist Church in Jacksonville, Florida for 17 years and Bradfordville First Baptist Church in Tallahassee, Florida for ten years. He and his wife, Kim, were married in 1979 and have two sons, Andy and Jordan. Andy is married to Lindsay and they have a son, Cade, a daughter, Ruthie, and welcomed their third child, Samuel, in October.

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