These words are written on a tomb of an Anglican bishop in Westminster Abbey:
When I was young and free and my imagination had no limits,
I dreamed of changing the world.
As I grew older and wiser, I discovered the world would not change.
So I shortened my sights somewhat and decided to change my country.
But it, too, seemed immovable.
As I grew into my twilight years, in one desperate attempt,
I settled for changing only my family, those closest to me,
But, alas, they would have none of it.
And now as I lie on my deathbed, I suddenly realize:
If I had only changed myself first, then by example
I would have changed my family.
From their inspiration and encouragement, I would have been able to better my country and, who knows, I may have even changed the world.
We cannot leave our own spiritual growth and development for someone else. I need to take responsibility for my life. You need to do the same for yours. No one can pray your prayers. No one can settle issues of faith in your heart but you. If I am to be a fully devoted follower of Christ, I must begin with self-surrender.